13 Reasons Why You Need to Date Your Husband
I met my husband when I was 19 years old. I was a sophomore at Brown University and he was a (gorgeous) senior. I remember thinking, “I hope he hasn’t graduated yet!” When we first met because I really (really) wanted to get to know him. He was so funny. He was so sweet. And (ahem) he was handsome as can be. What can I say, he kinda had me at HELLO. It’s funny – whenever I tell people that Matt and I are celebrating our 17th wedding anniversary on June 30th, they always say, “OMG! When did you two meet?” I guess being college sweethearts is a little crazy to some people. Matt likes to say that when we met I sunk my claws right in and didn’t let him go. LOL! OK… maybe a little. I just really fell head over heels quick, which is funny because I never thought I’d fall like that for someone so young. I was the epitome of “boy crazy” in high and college. All I can say is that I guess we were lucky to find each other so young. We’ve honestly grown up together, which is something that can either make or break a couple. Fortunately it’s been something that has made us stronger as we’ve gotten older.
But here’s the BIG thing… with life being so fast-paced and chaotic and busy for us, we just don’t make time for each other. We just don’t. I always say that I want to do this, but the reality is that it’s a lot tougher than is seems. Any given night of the week there’s 2 or 3 activities for the kids. There’s homework and studying and household chores and work. By the time we finally sit down to breath at the end of the night it’s almost 10PM! We’re exhausted!
We were invited to a tasting at Fleming’s Steakhouse last night in Providence, RI and as difficult as it was to get all the kids set for the night, we were determined to make a date out of it! My mom was kind enough to come over and babysit, so as soon as we were able to run off… we did!
It. Was. The. Best. Ever.
I felt like we were dating and I loved it! I took my time getting ready, even getting a new dress for the occasion! Matt got home from work a little late last night, so I kept looking outside to see if he was here yet! Which made the kids laugh because it really did make it seem like I was going on a date with some guy! I just wanted to look pretty for him when he walked through the door, that was what I kept thinking in my head – dazzle him!
I will say, he was dazzled! LOL! And he looked so handsome, too! He’s been losing weight lately, so I couldn’t get over how handsome he looked! I’m so used to him in his “Backyard Food Company” clothing, so it was nice seeing him in some dressier clothes. I swear Matt hasn’t changed a bit since college… he doesn’t even have gray hair yet!
The one takeaway from last night for me was that you need to date your husband. You need to take the time to date and be silly and be the ones you were when you first started dating. It was a long time ago, but those feelings of love and giddiness are all still there.
Why Date Your Husband?
- Getting one-on-one time is the best thing you can do, especially if you have little kids. Your life becomes so focused on the kids that you don’t often get time to just BE together.
- Those butterflies you used to feel on those first few dates still need to be in there! Find them!
- Get dressed up for each other! Know what color he likes seeing you in and wear that color!
- Don’t talk about work! Make it about you guys! Make it about plans you have coming up or things you want to do around the house.
- Hold hands while you’re there.
- See if you can guess what your spouse/partner will order for dinner.
- Make sure your phones are down and that you don’t have access to them (only for the kids!).
- Make each other laugh. Only my husband can make me belly laugh.
- Just stare into each other’s eyes and focus in on them. Every line on my face and every wrinkle my husband has been there for, he loves me for who I am.
- Set these dates up regularly with each other. Don’t let weeks or months go by.
- Remember how you feel just having it be the 2 of you! Embrace that feeling!
- Make date night affordable, don’t go too crazy. Just focus on making it about the two of you.
- Don’t make it a double date. Always just make it the 2 of you.