It is not Father’s Day or my dad’s birthday (though it will be next week!) or my parents’ anniversary… but I recently found something beautiful that my mom wrote about my dad a long time ago and I asked her if I could share it.
Way back in the summer of 1981, when I was not yet a year old, Audrey was 3, my brother Adam was 7 and my brother Keith was 9, my mom kept a diary in which she wrote letters to us about life at that time (kind of similar to a blog, really… just not on the not-yet-invented Internet).
I am sure she intended for us to read them years and years later, which, of course I did. (And let me say, I am amazed that this simple, nondescript diary has traveled unscathed over the course of these last 29 years, between three houses.)
It’s pretty evident just by reading my mom’s blog that my parents have an incredible marriage. They love, respect, support, encourage and admire each other every single day, in every possible way. They are each other’s best friend.
I know this because I see it. And I get it even more now that I am an adult, because I have been around – and in – relationships that just don’t have what my parents have.
So it was not surprising to find the following passage in my mom’s diary, but it was heartwarming and incredibly touching – and gave me happy tears – nonetheless. Especially knowing that her feelings have not changed one bit in 29 years.
You should know how deeply and how constantly I love your Daddy. I only wish for you two that the man you pick to spend your life with will be like your Dad. He is strong and so intelligent, and more loving and caring and sensitive than any man. He loves you two and Keith and Adam to the point of tears. He is a man to love, to talk to, to kiss and hug. You are safe, and you will always be happy with your Daddy.
We must always take care of him.
Good night, my beautiful family!!
Each word in that passage is true. Not only is my dad an amazing husband, but I could not imagine a more incredible father.
One day, a few months ago, my mom and I were talking how sweet, caring and hard-working Brian is, and my mom said, “I hope you know you are dating your father in a 25-year-old’s body.”
I couldn’t think of a higher compliment.
Thank you, Mom and Dad, for loving each other and for loving your family the way you do.