So, in news that’s probably not surprising to absolutely anyone who knows me (and definitely not surprising to those who already know)… I’m leaving NYC and moving back home to Rhode Island.
It was a decision that was both not at all and very difficult to make, and yet one I am absolutely at peace with.
It’s not that I don’t love living in the city. It’s not that I don’t love my job and the people with whom I work. It’s not that I don’t love traveling back and forth every weekend (well, love may be a bit strong of a word in this case).
It is that last summer, when I first made the decision to move to NYC, I was in an extremely different spot in my life than I am now. I didn’t have a mortgage anymore – or even a lease. I didn’t have a significant other in my life. I didn’t have a career keeping me from moving elsewhere.
So with tons of excitement, I got a job, found an apartment, prepared to make a new life in the city… and then (you know the story) I met Brian in RI.
When Brian helped move me into my apartment at the end of September, we were a very, very new couple, and it was understood between the two of us that we would see where things took us… but that I would be in the city for at least a year, probably more. But trips home, initially planned once a month-ish, quickly became weekly occurances. Riding into Providence on the bus each Friday night started feeling more and more right… and driving to the bus station to go back to NYC each Sunday evening began getting harder and harder.
And while, yes, much of my decision to move home has to do with my love life, there are, of course, other personal factors, as well. Basically, what it comes down to is this: while last summer everything was pushing me away from home, toward starting over somewhere else… now there are things pulling me back, things that are very, very important to me and my happiness.
There is nothing I would have regretted more than not moving to the city. When I needed it, the streets did make me feel brand new. The lights did inspire me. But with all do respect for Jay-Z and Alicia Keys, there is a place in the world that can compare. And now… now it’s time to go back there.